Okay, first of all, before you agree to any surgery, YOU SHOULD ASK FOR A REFERRAL TO A PHYSICAL THERAPIST, and actually go, and work hard on the exercises she gives you FAITHFULLY. Another “first of all” is don’t ever settle for the “just live with it”. I hear that WAY too often and always there is at least SOMETHING you can do to make some degree of progress. And another “first of all”, Don’t Feel Embarrassed! Statistics say 1 in 4 women are suffering with urinary incontinence, and that statistic includes women over just 18yrs old! You are not alone, and the sooner you do something about it, the easier your results will come.